I have experienced how my heart eroded bit by bit when find someone who cared about me was slowly away, then disappear, without reason. During that span of time, I continue to await her return. I live in guilt for fear of never hurt him until he did so.
If the following procedure is, of course, we have not been officially completed. There is still a heart that has not been sincere letting go, because it turns out I was the only person who "still". At that point I can not forgive myself, I keep blaming myself, my head haunted mind that I am not a good person to him until I don't deserve to know the reason for leaving me.
Then, it dawned on me. The relationship that happens between two people should always be based on the needs. He never once said to me, "I am afraid you do not need me again at a later date." Reminded of that sentence today, thus I should have that fear. He turned out to be the first person who didn't need me or maybe my task in meeting its needs considered has been completed, until he chose to lengthen the distance, remove yourself, and I have forgotten.
Some time passed, he finally bring up yourself. It was the day's most I been waiting for. Although the reason for returning was to reassert the separation. I still remember clearly, she said: "if I forget the heavy, slow down.". He left on me, she said she would go and he could not involve me. My feeling at the time was 30% down and 70% relief. In doing so, we are officially done.
For me, the better the person say "we broke up Yes!" or "goodbye, never meet me again!" which denotes a relationship really over. Firmly. With the point. Not with a comma or question mark. Farewell greeting with the most painful would be a lot better than being abandoned outright nor without one.